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Where and How Do We Find Someone To PNP?

This is one of those golden questions that we of the tweaker variety tend to find ourselves asking soon as we take a hit.

Gone are the days of Craigslist personals and Backpage, and partiers are not met with warm reception on many of the large mainstream hookup sites.

The question then becomes: 'How then do we find each other?'

Luckily for you, I have already done the research!

So, mainstream apps like Facebook dating and Tinder are out of the question. Doublelist, the self-proclaimed 'replacement for Craigslist classifieds' actively tracks down and permanently bans our accounts. This is clearly NOT a viable option!

There are sites like Reddit and Twitter, as well asMotherless, where many of us congregate - but with no built in mechanism for searching for other people by distance and location - coupled with their massive international network of registered users, finding someone local proves to be a next to impossible task.

However, there are alternatives:

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Alternative Dating Sites:

Forget about POF, Tinder and OkCupid - you might have marginal success or most likely close to success and then get the inevitable ban on your account.

What is there instead? There are some smaller niche dating sites that have active communities intent to attract our people!

One site that seems to be gaining quite a bit of traction in the Straight pnp scene is Letshangout.com - one good thing about this is that it is both small enough to allow you a good amount of exposure while being large enough to have plenty of options in just about any area. Personally, I reside in a relatively medium sized city (roughly 80000 residents, maybe a hundred and ten thousand within a 30 mile radius) and I have had no problems finding locals.

Another that I can recommend, as a close second to the above would be UptownDate.com . It has a slightly smaller reach than letshangout, but much like the former, it is a promising upstart that tends to draw a lot of our people. Who knows? It may be the reverse in terms of popularity soon.

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PNP Chat Groups:

These are not the old fashioned chat rooms that those of you over 30 will remember from AOL back in the day, but some of them might bear some resemblance to them, at least I have found it to be true.

One such example of this would be Kik (the app). You can search for various chat groups based on keywords, and odds are you won't have much trouble finding a PNP Hookup group dedicated to your location or a nearby location.

PNP Friendly Social Networks:

So the big guys are out of the question for a number of reasons, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and now Tumblr…

There are plenty of others that are PNP friendly and have a lot of us on there, and are definitely a lot of fun to frequent and view and share pnp related content, such as (the biggies Twitter and Reddit) as well as the upstarts NewTumbl.com BDSMLR.com Youllo.net Sharesome.com and swarmr.com - and they would most definitely be my list of selections for this category IF they offered the ability to search for people based on location or distance. Sadly, that is not the purpose of those particular sites nor do they offer that functionality.

However, there are a few that do:

FetLife is an excellent source whether you be gay straight or bi and have a Kinky streak. They offer searchable user profiles, Classified ads, groups (essentially forum posting), private messaging between users, and the ability to share media such as pictures and video, they also have the Shoutbox, which allows you to see everything people post in their Shoutbox in real time whether you are connected them or not although that has no geographic filtering, just a fun feature.

Another social network that has been garnering a ton of pnp fandom is Mewe. For the uninitiated, me.we is what is referred to as a decentralized social network where free speech prevails. Somewhat like what Mastodon is, but more feature-rich, less confusing and more popular. How you go about finding your communities is you can do a search for groups, and search for PNP, party, etc (we know our keywords) and join groups that way. A lot of our people have our chat groups set to private though meaning only invited people can see them even in search. The trick to getting into those is this:

Do a search for users using the same tactic you just used to search for groups. Send friend requests out to everyone with a screen name of that sounds like a fit for our goals and has a profile picture. Make sure you post something cool or funny or sexy and have a profile picture yourself. Ask them for invitations to groups. DONE.

Huge amounts of daily users and huge potential for local hookups whether you are gay straight or bi.

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PNP Friendly Social Networks:

So the big guys are out of the question for a number of reasons, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and now Tumblr

There are plenty of others that are PNP friendly and have a lot of us on there, and are definitely a lot of fun to frequent and view and share pnp related content, such as (the biggies Twitter and Reddit) as well as the upstarts NewTumbl.com BDSMLR.com Youllo.net Sharesome.com and swarmr.com - and they would most definitely be my list of selections for this category IF they offered the ability to search for people based on location or distance. Sadly, that is not the purpose of those particular sites nor do they offer that functionality.

However, there are a few that do:

FetLife is an excellent source whether you be gay straight or bi and have a Kinky streak. They offer searchable user profiles, Classified ads, groups (essentially forum posting), private messaging between users, and the ability to share media such as pictures and video, they also have the Shoutbox, which allows you to see everything people post in their Shoutbox in real time whether you are connected them or not although that has no geographic filtering, just a fun feature.

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Another social network that has been garnering a ton of pnp fandom is Mewe. For the uninitiated, me.we is what is referred to as a decentralized social network where free speech prevails. Somewhat like what Mastodon is, but more feature-rich, less confusing and more popular. How you go about finding your communities is you can do a search for groups, and search for PNP, party, etc (we know our keywords) and join groups that way. A lot of our people have our chat groups set to private though meaning only invited people can see them even in search. The trick to getting into those is this:

Do a search for users using the same tactic you just used to search for groups. Send friend requests out to everyone with a screen name of that sounds like a fit for our goals and has a profile picture. Make sure you post something cool or funny or sexy and have a profile picture yourself. Ask them for invitations to groups. DONE.

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PNP Friendly Hookup Apps

So you probably won't be finding much PNP action on OkCupid or Baidoo… but luckily, those are not the only options.

Depending on your sexual orientation here are some apps available on both Android and iOS that will almost guarantee success:

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For Gay or Bisexual men (or the 'curious' or 'so high they don't care who does them') there is:

Adam4Adam - one of the oldest hookup apps out there for gay man, if not the oldest with an app, is Adam4Adam. This is one that used to be at one point the largest hook-up site and app, however the gays are a fickle bunch and like to constantly pursued the newest and next thing so it is lost considerable popularity. That being said, I list this is my first choice because it does have enough usage in most areas to get the job done and, unlike all the other apps, it actually lists 'PNP' as one of the options in your profile under 'looking for' AND allows you to search specifically for 'looking for: PNP' and sort by distance!

Grindr - although not everybody on their is party-friendly, and grinder has cracked down on certain things such as what words or emojis can be used, luckily our terminology is forever changing and forever updating, so you shouldn't have too much trouble conveying your wants on your anonymous profile or screen name and there are typically plenty of men in the area looking for pnp now.

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Whisper, although it is not specifically for PNP people, this completely anonymous app enables you to get in contact with like-minded individuals through what are called 'whispers'... You can reply to whispers that other users posted either by direct private message or with a whisper that is shown publicly in response to their whisper, same concept as a comment on a Facebook share or a Reddit post or tweet, but in the whisper format which is easier to grasp by actually seeing it as opposed to me explaining it. You can locate these whispers either with their default method which is all whispers near you sorted by distance, and you can also join groups based on specific interest and/or localities which serve as a more anonymous, per capita more naughty, and more locations centric version of subreddits with whispers as the post format

In addition to whisper, both of the social networks listed in the previous section can

very easily be considered numbers 2 and 3 for this category.

Me.we, out of the two, is the more trendy one which has it's app posted both on Google Play and the Apple app store. It's app is also much more robust and user-friendly the functionality is 100% there to the point where I had been using it for a month, built up a following of over 1500, become a member of posted in it and even created a few groups before I even realized that there was a desktop version!

FetLife is another one that if you are both a partier and a kinkster, which most of us tend to be, will very much appeal to you. Their app is not available in either the Google Play store or the Apple app store, largely because they make no qualms about exactly what the site is about and what it's for and what they represent which is commendable. Luckily, their extreme popularity makes it to where it does not hurt them at all to have their mobile app only available for download directly from their site. Their mobile app is nowhere near as functional as mewe, but it certainly gets the job done and will definitely send you the notifications you need when you receive messages from party people.

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Classified Ads & Personals:

With Craigslist personals and Backpage out of the picture and doublelist being double douchey, are options in this regard are not as great as they used to be, but some do exist.

One place where we can find such listings would be casualx this site also has an app on Google Play and the Apple app store, it is somewhat of in between Craigslist ads and one of the more robust apps for hookups. It definitely does the job though.

Pernals also has a classified section that is frequent it more by PNP People than non PNP people, but it's also not that heavily trafficked

For gays: nastykinkpigs has a classified functionality as well and an enormous underground user base.

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Social Tube Sites:

if you can try your eyes away from the pouring for a second when you visit one of these sites, you will also notice that there is a social component to all of these. There is a reason why a lot of these sites will come to you to create a profile. It enables you to not only be seen when you post or comment on videos that come up in your search, it also in the cases of the following, enables you to search for other members and chat with them as well based on specific search queries, along with gender and sexual orientation or preference, age etc. And if they have filled out their profile completely and dropped one or two of our keywords somewhere in the profile either in this screen name or in the content of the profile you should have no trouble finding them.

That said, you can sort by distance. You can use the advanced search functionality to Target as narrowly as you really need to, but the more specific you are the fewer you're going to find. Or, alternatively, you can also sort by distance and who is online. If it is 2, 3 or 4 in the morning where you are, and they are online at the moment, odds are they are one of us!

These tubes I mention, where I have had personal success, include Motherless, XVideos, and Xtube. Arguably pornhub as well. There really is no need to break this category down by gay or straight, as there are plenty of all orientations on all of the above tube sites and it would be almost equally easy to find party people on any of those sites.

Conclusion:

Well ladies and gentlemen, party people of the world, my PNP peeps, there you have it - some of the best sources on the internet by cell phone tablet or laptop, to find your local PNP people next time you're looking to hook up. Perhaps this will save you some time, happy hunting!

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We didn’t always have a lot of openly gay couples to look up to on TV. I mean, there was Bert and Ernie (come on, we all know they’re more than just roommates). However, most old-school television shows would feature a gay best friend without a love interest, and his role was to support his friends on their love stories — not create one of his own.

Then in the late 1990s, groundbreaking TV shows like “Will & Grace” and “Modern Family” challenged traditional stereotypes and showed that gay relationships are (this may shock you) pretty much the same as straight relationships. Just with a better sense of style.

Nowadays, if you’re looking for the Mitch to your Cam or the Bert to your Ernie, you don’t have to look very far. The online dating scene has many LGBTQ-friendly resources and men-seeking-men sites where gay guys are the star of the show.

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You may think of online dating as a straight person’s game, but you’d be wrong. Online dating is for everybody, and it works especially well for singles in niche communities. According to a 2016 Match.com survey, 56% of LGBTQ singles have dated someone they met online. The following dating sites offer men-seeking-men options to help you get off the bench and into the game.

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Relationships:Friends, Dates, and Relationships

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Match has a diverse membership base in terms of background, nationality, and orientation. This dating site has been around longer than any other dating site, and it’s still racking up success stories. It’s basically the queen of online dating. No matter what type of date you’re looking for, you’re sure to find it in Match’s treasure trove of profiles.

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As a relationship-seeking space, EliteSingles prides itself on being a cut above the rest. This international dating site has attracted thousands of discerning daters seeking a gay relationship. Over 80% of its members have earned at least a bachelor’s degree, and over 90% are interested in finding the real deal and settling down.

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Zoosk is headquartered in San Francisco, so you better believe this dating site is gay-friendly. In 2007, the startup launched a dating site that would use powerful social networking tools (newsfeed, behavioral, and lengthy profiles) to upgrade the online dating scene. And it took off. Today, Zoosk has over 40 million members in 80 countries.

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Going out on a date every weekend can get expensive, so singles should look for savings wherever they can. Maybe that means heading to the bar early for happy hour, or maybe it means checking out the free features on dating sites and apps. By joining a free dating site, you can get the lay of the land and browse profiles without spending a cent of your hard-earned cash.

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5. Grindr

Grindr is pretty much universally known as one of the most popular gay dating apps around. In the 2018 movie “Love, Simon,” Simon’s dad hilariously refers to it as “Like Facebook for gays.” Not exactly. It’s more like a slam book for gays. You have the chance to rate local date prospects on a straightforward hot-or-not scale, and the ones who like you back will show up in your mutual matches. That’s when the real fun begins.

Grindr has approximately 3.8 million active users spread across 200+ countries.

As a casual men-only app, Grindr offers 100% free communication (though you can only contact guys who like you back) to all its members. Since 2009, it has endeavored to support the LGBTQ+ community and provide a safe space where gay singles can feel accepted, valued, and loved.

6. Tinder

Tinder needs no introduction. It’s the most popular dating app in the whole freakin’ world. It invented swiping, for crying out loud. Since 2012, this dating app has seen billions (yeah, with a B) of swipes and facilitated an ungodly number of first dates and hookups. And some relationships, too, I’m sure.

Gay singles can join the swipe life by downloading Tinder for free. As the app says, “Single is a terrible thing to waste.”

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Backpage was a popular classified ads website launched in 2004, but a slew of troubling and unethical incidents led the U.S. Justice Department to shut Backpage down in 2018. The CEO pleaded guilty to charges of facilitating prostitution and money laundering. It was a whole big mess.

The sad part is not everyone on Backpage were skeevy, sex-crazed perverts and criminals. Some were legit looking for a date. Where do those folks go now? We’ve picked up some upstanding dating resources that can offer a reliable alternative to Backpage. These sites have a similar personals-driven interface, but include more robust protections for user privacy and safety.

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We rank MenNation as among the best gay personals sites around because it’s a free, fun, and flirtatious place to meet guys. The site has millions of active members, and it’s a sexually stimulating guys-only network. Gay singles and couples don’t have to be coy while mingling on MenNation, aka the world’s largest gay hookup site.

MenNation is a safe and trustworthy alternative for former Backpage users. The site allows its members to report abuse or sexually explicit ads, so the site can take appropriate action to protect people. Plus, MenNation is mobile-friendly, so you can access it on your phone without downloading an app.

8. Craigslist

While Craigslist no longer has a dedicated personals section, it’s still a hot spot for singles looking for friendship, camaraderie, and, let’s be honest, sex. They’re just not as in-your-face about it as they used to be. If you hang out in the community section, you’re bound to find folks seeking some one-on-one time.

The Activities, Missed Connections, and General groups are good places to start looking for hot guys in your area. You can do a keyword search through Craigslist ads to find gay singles and get in touch through private messages.

9. OkCupid

In 2014, OkCupid became the first dating app to offer 22 gender and 13 orientation options for its users. This inclusive move earned it top marks among the LGBTQ+ community, and the platform has continued to position itself as a staunch ally to singles who go against the grain and dare to be different.

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Gay singles can join BlackPeopleMeet for free and set their dating preferences, so only gay men appear in their search and match sections.

11. Plenty of Fish

With over 1 billion messages sent a month on the site, Plenty of Fish prides itself on being “the best dating site for conversations.” It’s free to send messages on POF, as singles call it, and you can browse under a username (not your real name) to stay anonymous while you browse.

Plenty of Fish gives its members a chemistry test to determine the individual’s relationship needs and cultivate successful matches on the site. You can read its success stories on the site.

12. Hornet

Young. Hip. Fast-paced. Hornet is all that and more. The dating site and app supports a community of gay singles seeking meaningful connections, not just hookups. The digital network boasts over 25 million members of all ages and backgrounds. Hornet is available on iOS, Android, and the web.

Hornet’s live newsfeed makes the dating platform feel like a social networking site.

Unlike some other gay dating sites, Hornet’s founders and leadership team are part of the LGBTQ+ community, so it’s mission is personal to them. The platform has done its best to not only facilitate dates but to offer a sense of belonging for gay men around the world.

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Once you reach a certain age, meeting new people isn’t so easy. For one thing, you may not be into the party scene anymore. For another thing, you may have already dated all the cuties in your friend group. That’s when it’s time to branch out and find an age-appropriate dating scene where your maturity won’t be counted against you. Check these over-50 dating sites out next time you’re interested in finding a daddy, a bear, or a silver fox.

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OurTime is a high-quality dating site powered by the Match Group, which runs popular dating brands in over 190 countries. Since its launch in 2017, OurTime has made headlines as the fastest-growing senior dating site around. It welcomes gay, straight, lesbian, and bi singles seeking companionship and a new lease on life.

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Niche dating sites, like Silver Singles, have done a lot to change people’s perceptions about singles of a certain age. Not all over-50 daters are afraid of technology or hesitant to meet someone new. It can actually be exciting to get back into the dating scene and feel like a teenager again.

SilverSingles encourages its members to take the plunge, defy stereotypes, and make their golden years truly special. Free membership includes profile setup, browsing, and limited communication.

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15. GayCupid

Although GayCupid isn’t strictly a senior dating site, it does have a strong foothold in the over-50 demographic. Cupid Media network owns this international dating service and introduces thousands of singles online. You can check out GayCupid’s success stories on the site.

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New members automatically receive a free three-month trial period during which they can access all the premium features on GayCupid, including free messaging. After the three months is over, GayCupid members must upgrade their accounts to continue using the site to meet date prospects.

How is a Personals Site Different From a Dating Site?

We receive this question a lot, and I totally get it. Personals sites look a lot like dating sites. They both have new members create a profile, they both have some sort of live messaging system, and they both intend to facilitate dates and relationships. The difference is in the details.

Dating personals have fewer bells and whistles to distract and hamper singles in their search for a date. Here are the hallmarks of a dating personals site:

  • Abbreviated profiles (ads)
  • No match algorithms
  • Simple search filers (gender, location, or keyword)
  • No likes, favorites, or mutual matches
  • Free, unlimited messaging

Most people use personals sites and traditional dating sites interchangeably because they’re so similar. However, dating sites (and apps) put more effort into curating matches, while dating personals sites are happy to get out of the user’s way and let him decide what he wants.

What Happened to Backpage, and is Craigslist a Good Alternative?

We’ve touched on Backpage’s sordid history and demise earlier in this article, but I’ll spill more of the juicy details here, too. The FBI worked alongside the IRS, the Department of Justice, and the U.S. Postal Inspection service to seize Backpage.com in April 2018. You know it’s bad when even the Postal Service is after you. The government charged seven people in a 93-count indictment on charges that included sex trafficking and money laundering.

It sounds like a straightforward good-guys-win and pimps-go-to-jail story, right? Well, the fallout has been a little more complicated than that.

In April 2018, the Backpage company pleaded guilty to human trafficking.

The Cut published an interesting piece about sex workers’ reaction to Backpage’s shutdown. A 20-year-old Muslim woman said, “Backpage is currently — or it was — my sole source of income,” and others pointed out that not having a platform to screen dates could make them more vulnerable to johns looking to take advantage of the situation.

But what’s done is done. The personals site is no more, the CEO pleaded guilty, and singles have to find a backup Backpage. The top candidate is Craigslist, a classified ads site, but it actually shut down its personals section in early 2018. You can still meet singles through the site’s discussion forum, which has a m4m section where gay men congregate, but there’s no longer a dedicated space for soliciting dates or sex on Craigslist.

“Any tool or service can be misused,” Craigslist stated in its announcement of the shutdown. “We can’t take such a risk without jeopardizing all our other services.”

What Does “M4M” and “MSM” Mean?

People throw around a lot of jargon in the dating scene, and it’s important to know what they’re saying so you don’t wind up in an awkward situation. If someone asks you to P&P, for instance, and you show up with a copy of “Pride and Prejudice,” you’re both going to be in for a surprise.

So, what does M4M mean? That’s an easy one. Men for men! I mean, I guess the person could also be referring to the M4M boy band, but it’s not that likely. In the context of a personals site, M4M is code for “I’m a guy looking for guys.” MSM (men who have sex with men) amounts to the same thing. When you see MSM or M4M on a dating personal, it’s a green light for gay singles.

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Americans still have a long way to go in terms of true equality and LGBTQ+ representation in society, but we’ve made significant progress in Hollywood at least. In 2017, even Disney broke with its princesses-seek-princes tradition and featured its first gay kiss on the animated series “Star vs. the Forces of Evil.”

Gay men have really come into their own in the last decade or so, and many men-seeking-men dating services celebrate their right to pursue anyone and everyone they like. It’s never been easier for men seeking men to get together. We’ve listed some of the best gay-friendly dating personals in multiple categories to help you take center stage and find the star-studded romance you deserve. Good luck!

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